“I don’t know how to approach someone.”
That’s a common problem for many singles.
For a lot of people, approaching someone they are attracted to or interested in is no easy task. While some assume it’s about low self-esteem, it’s often caused by something else.
People tend to make it more high stakes than it is in reality. Approaching someone often gets tied to rejection and worth, when it really is nothing more than an action that yields information.
The problem is understandable, but here’s the truth: moments like those are not proposals.
Someone telling you no or that they are not interested isn’t a reflection of your worth. Many people know that intellectually, but their actions don’t reflect it.
The solution? Greet them. That’s it.
It lowers the stakes and drops the pressure.
Greeting someone you’re interested in should not be performative or complex. It should be normal.
It doesn’t require anything in return romantically. If we can remember that, much of that pressure begins to fade.